Friday, March 11, 2005
Rather than thinking "how can he/she treats me in that way", why not we think in another way, "why does he/she treats me in tis way?"..
the above is a short phrase extracted from my chi comprehension test. it sounds meaningful, isn't it?.. it helps us to think in a logical way when we are mad. n when it comes to clarifying misunderstandings, it is much more easier. IF we sit down n think back abt our actions, we would noe the reason. wouldn't that help us save more trouble n quarrels?.. n most importantly, a frenship which has bonded us together.
But knowing the reason, is not the final step to solving a misunderstanding yet. wad u need is to muster ur courage, lower ur pride, n say sorry. but many times we ain't able to do that, why?.. because at tis age, many of us tend to have a high pride and refuse to do anything that will allow one to feel uneasy. but too bad, if its ur fault, then u gotta do it. n i did it.
to let go of those "mind-corruption" thots i had b4, n try to have a magnanimous & forgiving heart, is the first step i'm gonna take. i'll overcome my shortcomings and try to be as flawless as possible. rather than consoling n telling oneself that "how can he/she treat me like that, thou it may be my fault... in the past when in times of needs n crisis, i'hv also been there for you wad.." y not i try to think," hmm.. it may realli be my fault afterall." And if ur able to do that, u are already on ur way to the second step.
Even though if u had really helped ur frens in the past, yet they dun seem to realise that when they are mad or smth, it might be juz due to their hot-headed mindset that they are undergoing at that pt of time. Lastly, u need not let the other party noe that u'hv indeed put in ur utmost to help him/her, so long as heaven, earth and YOU knows, its fine.
if i could.. @ 1:32 PM